A Little Detail About A Little Relationship,,,

Okay people, I have a very simple question to ask you:

At what point do you decide to disclose that you're in a serious relationship with someone else while you're "seeing" another person?

So, between the second and third bites at brunch today, I asked L with whom she was going to Mexico with over the 4th of July weekend. This was our second date in two weeks, aside from the little coffee break we had the other night.

"Oh," she said. "My boyfriend."

It was the sound the DJ makes when he winds down the record that went off in my head. I think my ears popped a bit, because the music got a teeny bit louder.

I'm not upset with this new little piece of information I just received. I'm a little more bothered by the fact it wasn't said to me the other night when I made a move to kiss L (and was deftly denied by the cheek.) I wasn't subtle about it, either. I fuckin' went for it. Twice.

Excuse me miss, but WHEN WERE YOU GOING TO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT THIS?!? It occurred to me that if I hadn't asked about her trip today she probably wouldn't have said anything either. And the flirting and the midnight phone calls would have ensued.

I played it off today just fine. We even went for an ice cream afterward before I dropped her off at home. We had talked about going to the movies when she gets back from her trip, even.

But I think I'll decidedly become "busy." That's if she calls back. It's a bummer, too, because I thought she was someone I could get into.

Be-Foe You Wreck Yo-Self

Ack. I just caught myself.

I thought I had pledged to not put all my "eggs" in one basket anymore, and to stop pining for just one girl. The point of this was to avoid getting all wrapped up like I used to do over said girl.

But I was doing just that.

I mean, I would put L at the top of my list. I haven't really gone out with anyone else yet, but that's because I'm flat broke and can't even afford a hot dog right now.

So I better just check myself.

Right. Now.

Am I Up For This?

She's playing hard-to-get.

She's playing hard-to-get, or she's not interested.

After about 5 days of silence, I get a text message reply from L. I had left her the following message after calling her on Thursday:

Me: Can't tell if it was your phone or mine, but there was a lot of static when I called. How are ya? Playing hard to get already?

A whole day passes.

Her (reply after 24 hours): Lol no silleee isn't it gorgeous out

I sent her another message, telling her I was searching for glass repair shops for my car window. I didn't get a message from her until 3 hours later, when I was sleeping, and her phone sent the same message 6 times. I couldn't be fucked to send her another text so I just went to sleep.

I feel like I'm too old for this shit. I don't mind a little gameplay here and there. I don't mind the little poke-me games and hot/cold I get from PG... because she's 21. And I didn't get the impression that L was like that. I thought she was someone who knows what she wants. She did make the first move after all and decided to invite me online.

Eh. I'm also too tired to figure this out right now. All I know is that she's 30 and could be playing games and I'm 27 and don't want to be played (again.) So I guess it's up to me to shit or get off the pot. I hope I'm wrong about this whole thing, but the voice inside my head is calling it like it sees it-- just like it did with PG. She likes you man, but she's probably playing games with you to find out how serious you are. Are you up for this? You gonna let her win at this game?

I honestly don't know. I don't even think I would know how to turn the tables in my favor.

I also hate playing games. But it's like that hate you have for something but do it anyway.