So the girl from yesterday? As promised, I went to the cute girl's job during my lunch. She was there, working on some stuff with a customer. I walked over and said hello. She looked up and smiled. "Oh, what a nice surprise," she said back. I saw she was busy and said I would walk around a bit.
Truth be told I was only coming in to say hi. But she said she was about to take her lunch and asked if I wanted to join her. "Sure," I said, "but I can't stay long." I waited around a bit more and wandered around.
[**SIDENOTE: I should mention that one of the reasons I decided I liked her was that she is European. (Extra points for being exotic.) I find I have better luck with non-American girls. (Or if they are American, they tend to be older-- which might explain the pass Kim made at me.) She's from the Ukraine, originally, which has no bearing other than it means that she's not from here, which to me, means I have a better chance of getting along. And perhaps that's been my stigma all along: dating American girls on or around my age. Just no luck. At all. Europe: no problem. Older: no problem. I have NO fucking clue as to why. Yet.**]
We went for a nice (albeit short) walk and decided on a cup of coffee. When she decided to pay, it kind of threw me off. Granted, a nice sign. But I was actually, like, Wow... I don't think that's ever happened... to me... before... We walked a little more, looking for some shoes (the one thing I couldn't sell her yesterday.) I recommended a store across the street and we picked out a pair. She made sure to compliment me, saying I "was good," and that I really knew my stuff. I was beginning to think she might have the wrong idea about me, so I made sure to ask what her future plans were for the next few days, with the tone of I-totally-want-to-date-you. I told her I had to get going before I got the third degree from work. When we exited the shoe store, I handed her a card with my cell phone. "You have mine, right," she made sure to ask, to which I acknowledged. "Then call me anyway," she smiled. I told her I would.
But I noticed that she flipped. Earlier in the conversation, she said she might be open to a cup of coffee Sunday afternoon. Then when we parted ways, she said she might be busy later tomorrow. My first impulse was, that it was to make sure she didn't come across too easy. After all, she was the one who suggested we go for a coffee. I only told her (yesterday) that I was going to show up. And that's all I did. She led the rest of the way.
So here's where I'm at: I think the only thing to do is NOT call her tonight or tomorrow. Yeah, I think the 2nd Day Rule should be observed in this case-- after all, I don't want to come across as too easy as well. But I think I should definitely call her and ask her out for something this week. Something easy, and cheap (since I paid off my car-- ouch!) That rules out a lot of things. But I know I need to make a move pretty soon, or I'll lose the momentum that has been going pretty well so far.
Any suggestions?
Normally, I would tell you to forget the rules and call when it feels right, but in this case, I think you're right... you just met her and a few days of breathing space would work in your favor.
ReplyDeleteBut then again, I'm terrible at this stuff - what do I know?
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